...till death do us part.

When I started my online research into polygamy, I wanted to find out what kind of rights the women in these marriages had. My search didn't answer that, all I found is that the government says it recognises polygamy, but as I discovered the 2nd and 3rd wives are allowed an allowance which  I believe is no different to what other women like those from single parent families or divorcees receive. If the government really did recognise polygamy then all the wives would get equal benefits, this shows me that only the wife under state law is acknowledged.  I think if a man is to take more than one wife then they should certainly have the same rights, which I believe is possible in Britain, but only if the man takes full responsibility for his family and provides for them with his own income. Or, as I discovered if one of his wives is a career woman and she chooses to provide for herself.
 After conducting my research and reading all the comments on various blogs, Iv'e come to the conclusion that the majority of women and their children don't really fair well in it all. I'm not saying it's like that for everyone but a lot of women are miserable because I think there's huge pressure on the wives, both of them, because when it boils down to it, they are more or less single mothers with a part time dad. This then has a knock on effect on the children, as one of the comments on my post titled 'one big happy family' said, the mother can influence her children to either love or resent their father. 
So, I think the man who wants to marry more than one woman should think it through very carefully, and make sure that if he does decide to take steps in that direction he will be completely committed to them both and it's not simply because he feels it's his right and 'Islam allows it'. Islam permits polygamy but only if the wives are treated fairly and equally, just so long as he remembers. If a Mormon family like the Dargers in the USA are able to all live together successfully and make it work, then there's no reason why a Muslim family can't do it in Britain. Finally I'd like to thank all those who have taken their time to read my blog, I sincerely hope I haven't offended anyone with anything I've posted. I started my blog by asking, happy ever after? I really do hope it is.